"Swim with me into your blackest eye" is the tag line in a popular song now about a really creepy guy who sounds like he ought to be behind several barred doors in a facility for the criminally insane. Like other creepy songs before it, I see the kids playing it on YouTube, and I protest. I don't care how "poetic" and "melodic"it is -- it's wrong. I object, they tell me I'm over-reacting, that I'm not cool, that it's nothing, but...I don't care. I will sound off. These songs, these elements of popular culture celebrate violence and condone violence against women in particular, and the Porcupine singer even thinks there's something "erotic" about a woman being beaten up and crying and having her make-up running. Ugh...
Ugh, just like the fashion bloggers in Second Life, who flog this kind of horrid battered and bruised female skin, even anticipating that it will be "very popular". Halloween, and all that.
I can only protest. It's wrong. Battering women -- or men -- or children -- isn't right. It's not cool. It's not "fashionable". Why would anyone think it is "beautiful"?!
I'm just frankly appalled that this stuff goes by week after week on World of SL and other sites and nobody complains. This time of year it reaches a particular peak. Nobody says, hey, that's ugly. That's wrong! And claiming that it "doesn't matter" because it is in a virtual world doesn't make it right.
Yet here's how "Gogo" gushes about this stuff:
"These new Gala Phoenix Battle Royale skins are so interesting I have to show you them in larger than normal sizes. There are 6 makeups total, with 2 versions each and a light and dark skin tone option. These skins also have a version called Battle Royale Defeated, which features the same makeups on a more banged up and bloody body. Scroll down to see all the makeups available & pics of the body :) I squealed a little when I tried on each one.. they get bloody!"
I can only urge women who find themselves caught up in a relationship where you are brutalized like this even if only psychologically enthralled online, to call for help. Just because it's virtual doesn't make it less serious, in my view. It's like the issue with child predators, rationalizing and justifying "ageplay" online "even with adults" is all part of desensitizing and moving the line to make what is criminal "acceptable". "Batterplay" is the same sort of thing -- I see more and more of it, and even outside of the confines of traditional BDSM which has notions of "consent" and "safe words" and such that is missing in casual battering.
Unfortunately, I don't see any groups inworld that address this in what would really be an effective manner. There's a Christian group that will help you pray to Jesus about this problem but I would think that would be a turn-off to most people. I'm all for praying to Jesus but well, Jesus is not always available (I'm thinking of my favourite Russian short story by Isaac Babel, "The Sin of Jesus").
Then there's a nonprofit that does this work, but their site in SL is just a sort of stand or website, not live with help.
Several times flying around SL, including lately in Zindra, I see places described as "sub refuges," where the "subs" of the BDSM" "lords and masters" can get a break from the slavery and violence. However, that is merely part of the system, perpetuating it.
No doubt these skins are allowed for sale in the new dispensation under "mature". But, my point isn't to assign where they go or who can see them or what they're for, my point is simply to make a moral protest, to push back.